Wondering

I have had to attend the funerals of two friends in the last couple of weeks. That is not a pleasant experience. My sympathy goes to the ones they left behind.

Attending those funerals left me with concerns about my funeral. I know I won't be there. That is a given. Perhaps I should leave the nuts and bolts of my funeral to those left. It does give them something to think about during that time of grief.

However, I have always been a control freak...or so I have heard a time or two. (I don't really believe I am, it just looks that way.)So there are a couple of things I would want considered for my funeral. My thoughts of things that should be and not be at my funeral. I have no intention of needing a funeral any time soon by the way. So let's not consider this a forward planning exactly.

First...I would like the person who is doing the funeral to have at least heard of me before the funeral. It is sad when the pastor or who ever has absolutely no knowledge of the departed personally. To me that seems like production line funerals. I cannot see how such a thing is comforting to anyone involved. I realize this could be a problem. As I age, fewer and fewer people are live who have any knowledge of me. But still there must be someone who knows me that would be willing to officiate.

Second...Please don't Evangelize at my funeral. Evangelizing at funerals is just wrong. And it is impolite as well, I believe. Most of those attending funerals believe already. Those who don't won't be convinced at that point. So just do the comforting Psalms thing. Don't try to convince anyone else to be saved...Do that on your own time, OK?!

No sad music please. Don't 'beat the drum slowly'. Get to it! Play bluegrass gospel. Play bluegrass anything. Play it fast and hard. Play it Happy, even if the words are not. I really don't like organ music...but a honky tonk piano is good. Amazing Grace during the service is always good. That and The Cowboy Rides Away are my only requests.

Get to the fellowship after the funeral as fast as possible! Laugh, visit, and offer condolences often. Party! I think that is important...Probably the most important part of the funeral.

See I am not a total control freak...I know I must have left out some things that need to be considered about a funeral. I just tried to give my thoughts about the parts that seem important to me now. I believe that none of it will be important to me at the time of my funeral, but that is then. Right now those things are important to me.

To lighten this blog up I should close with something funny...but now I am feeling depressed and can't think of anything. So, More, Later...